Written by Allison Grossberg, WLLC 2015-2016
In the article entitled, “No Time to Grieve: Losing My Life’s Love and Regaining My Own Strength” author Maria Brann discussed how miscarriages are talked about and dealt with by doctors, patients, and society in general. She begins by explaining that,
“Unfortunately, some health care providers often do not know how to communicate with patients who are experiencing loss or other traumatic events (Gillotti, Thompson, & McNeilis, 2002).”
Dealing with any type of emotional trauma is difficult, and some individuals may be more skilled in helping a patient to cope with their pain and loss. However, I also think it’s really important, as Brann also highlights that the patient take an active role in communicating their needs and assisting their health care providers to give them the individualized care that they need.
Brann further emphasizes this idea by explaining that both,
“Health care providers and patients share responsibility for communicating effectively with one another, which is paramount, and exceptionally difficult, when coping during traumatic events.”
Once the patient caretaker relationships are developed to a point where the patient feels that they are being cared for in an appropriate manner, then the second step is to be able to freely grieve the loss of a child at home, and within society. However, Brann points out that, “the overwhelming silence society has placed on this topic…keeps many individuals from knowing, understanding, sharing, and being comforted during such a tragic event.”
It is clear then, that as a society we need to take on a similar responsibility to that of many health care providers, to more effectively assist those dealing with trauma to grieve and heal in appropriate and healthy ways. After all, “as noted by Ross and Geist (1997), “a loss, no matter when it occurs, deserves to be acknowledged” (p. 181),” not just by the woman whose loss it is, but by all.